Women, Patriachy and Emerging Leadership

The #METOO movement in the past few months brings the topic "Women and Men" blatently into the foreground of the discussion.

We talked about the topic "Men, Women and Power" last October in The Wisdom Factory.net

(Watch and find the Timestamps/Summary HERE)

In this context it is almost inevitable that the topic arose also in our monthly meeting of WOMEN MATTERS and, naturally, the topic of PATRIARCHY as "the source of all evil". I know, many women think this way and proclaim their hate for patriarchy openly and with emotional power. But do they really know what they are talking about when they talk about Patriarchy in the way how the radical feminist taught us to think and speak? 

In my opinion, most of the time when we blame Patriarchy as the oppressor of us, women, we throw the baby out with the bathwater, unfortunately. Patriarchy equals power, blame and disadvantage of women, and the necessary status of being the victim of this power which is operated by MEN.

When you force yourself to be limited by an ideological view on the world, well, that's what you see and believe. But when you are open and take into account history and the evolution of consciousness and also of human society, than you would be able to see things much more differentiated. You will be able to detach a male person alive today from the oppressive forces of patriarchy. It is not the fault of men alone that we have chosen this form of society in the past. Women have done their choice, too, and for some time living in what is called "Patriarchy" was what they chose. 

SPIRAL DYNAMICS and INTEGRAL THEORY explain very well how societies were formed and grew during the past thousands of years in a certain way, in stages which start, come to bloom, then develop pathologies and finally die and give way to the next stage. And women and men alike were contributing to the development all the time - as they are presently doing by awakening the public consciousness about appropriate versus inappropriate sexual behavior.

The WOMEN MATTERS Conversation wasn't only about this topic, but it expanded afterwards by an email exchange (read it HERE) and also prompted me to write an article where I explain more in depth what I have been saying here. (Find it in our blog at The-Wisdom-Factory.com)

We also had a conversation about how we can allow leadership emerge in a group? If we don't want groups anymore which are led by someone assuming the role as leader, how do we organize that? How can one person be the leader for a certain time or topic and then another person take over leadership? Much to explore and learn here!

We also spoke about decision making and the fact that only a small amount of factors are actually visible to us when we make decisions and that most of the facts, considerations, feelings, conditionings etc. which are leading us are completely out of our awareness. 

So no wonder why we humans have a hard time to make really good decisions.

Finally, it is Christmas Time

My nephew's children enjoy Christmas as I did as a child.

 The topic Angels came up. Can we imagine angels as an energy field? Or are we stuck with accepting or denigrating angels with wings etc.?

Interesting that scientist talk about angels too, like Rupert Sheldrake in his co-authored book "The Physics of Angels". I have ordered the book and am looking forward to get to know more. If you are interested, too, just click on the book title!

Well, If you are Christian or not, in our culture Christmas is a big deal even if it is called differently sometimes for PC correctness. This doesn't erase history and I wish you all a wonderful celebration of the new light, coming into the world after a time of darkness. Lets pray together that the present darkness which has covered our whole planet with threats of violence, war, destruction will soon cease and give way to a new light. And may this new light become ever brighter and brighter!

HAPPY AWAKENING INTO THE LIGHT!

How can we stay inspired to work towards a sustainable future?

We are living in times of acute crisis. The world which we are used to living in is changing from day to day, virtually. The technological advancement has become so fast that there is no way to control things anymore in the way it worked so far. We are now living in a system which is self-organized. Nobody on the top can efficiently interfere and cause a fundamental change, no matter if they are presidents of a powerful state who believes he can make his country safe and secure, or social activists who believe that destruction will resolve everything, especially lead to their own future as dictators of the world.

WHAT CAN YOU DO AND BE WHEN EVERYTHING IS DESTROYED? AND WHAT IF YOU HAVE PUT IN PRISON OR ERADICATED THE LAST PRESUMED TERRORIST?

You probably will be dead yourself or live in total poverty. The least thing you can expect that the changes are totally unpredictable when you deliberately work against them in a restrictive and fearful way by claiming to be as powerful as God in guiding the movement of the world. You are not, we are not. No technology will substitute the intrinsic human values, the feelings and desires we all have and the responsibility to find the very best way for resolving our problems - and this is not by proclaiming the EASY BUTTON or the old and often proved unfunctional ways of MORE OF THE SAME.

We are at this point in life because of the power of the solar masculine abilities to go out into the world and search for knowledge and visions and find ways to achieve them. Nothing bad about that, not at all. But it has been too one-sided. The feminine energies have been neglected, eliminated or at least constrained to operate on a very limited terrain. Politics and Economics, science and technology, masculine domains and brought forth mainly by men. Women, who try to raise their voice have to take into account that the systems they are operating in, are masculine systems. No wonder that we women after the women's liberation tried to become men, better men, but certainly not embodiments of the feminine power and ways of doing. 

Actually, we women don't know how a feminine way could be. There are no role models yet.

As a consequence, we women have to do our best to find out what a feminine alternative could be to the present situation. You cannot tell yet that women in the main leadership positions would do better. Single examples in the world politics are not really convincing. But yes, those women are working within the masculine framework and not really interested in experimenting and finding out what a feminine framework could be. 

Probably we need to build that up from the bottom by coming together and explore things from our personal perspective - which hopefully is more "feminine" than "masculine" just by our own experience of being a woman in the world. We need to sort things out, find out what "feminine" means and uncover our hidden biases and conditionings. It is a process and needs many of us women to collaborate in finding out how we can create a better world from our "indigenous" perspective.

That's why we have founded the WOMEN MATTERS series in THE WISDOM FACTORY. Women from different places in the world are coming together to explore their perspectives and their experience, always focused on co-creating something new and good in the world.

The below talk is about an important question:

 Being surrounded by so many discouraging events and attitudes of other people: how can we stay inspired? 

How can we be motivated to go on with the little we actually can do - as opposed to just give up and resign in the face of the unfavorable environment of a superficial culture which ignores the dangers it is producing?

If you feel inspired to join a conversation group, in English, German or Italian, please connect with us via email to paradisointegrale@gmail.com

(Watch previous conversations here and let us know what you think about it)

SENSING AND SILENCE – Feminine Qualities in Public Discussions

What are "Feminine Qualities" and how can they be helpful in our lives and in the world?

For a very long time feminine qualities have been dismissed as not appropriate for managing the "real world". Tough men had to say where the world is directed to and the feminine ways of being seemed to be more adapted to raising children and be good wives in support of their husbands. Well, yes. And we shouldn't underestimate the influence of women on their men. In my opinion they, sometimes, were able to calm them down a little and so prevent the worst. We cannot know how often and how much they were successful, but obviously not successful enough if we consider where the masculine way of being in the world has brought us: A life full of technology and wellbeing on the one hand and destruction of our basis of life on the other hand. The question arises: what is of more value and how can the world come back into balance - if it is still possible?

Certainly not with more of the same, with more masculine drivenness for power and dominance, for destruction of nature in service of ideas and ideologies. We women and the feminine ways of being and thinking - which can be embodied also by men -, we need to become active and take part in the destiny of our planet, give our gifts for the survival of our species. We are born caretakers and weavers of relationships, we have the innate knowledge of how to create bondings and how to take care for future generations. We are called to become self-confident about our abilities - instead of holding back for fear to be smiled on as "a weak woman who sheds tears on everything" and who is not able to deal with the hard facts of life. 

We need to present feminine qualities in the public sphere, push back against masculine arrogance and shortsightedness and offer our perspectives on everything that matters, directly and in public. We might not always be "right" - and we are not - but we need to counterbalance the overly rationalized and simplified ways of masculine reasoning of "one at a time", where they loose the wider perspective on the consequences of their decisions and actions.

For this reason the women of "Women Matters" inside the Wisdom Factory come together and explore what can be done and how we can be in order to become part of the solution instead of perpetuating the problem.

Watch here our meeting last month - and if you feel inspired to collaborate, contact us!

Uncovering unconscious barriers in women’s participation in the world

Well, this blog was created to bring into German language what I have learned participating in courses offered exclusively in English. Seems that English is the language where things proceed and where people join and so I decided to switch to English as main language.

Watch the video below: 2 German and one Canadian woman discussing the topic:

Heidi Hornlein, Gertraud Wegst and Tammy Lea Meyer

Context: 6 years ago I came into contact with the Feminine Power Teaching - which gave rise to this blog. I certainly have implemented it into my life and have helped others to do so. I myself have learnt to deal with INVISIBILITY by creating public conversations and by appearing as contributor on national and international conferences. Many women are in the audience - but where are they as leaders, public speakers and so on? There are some, yes, but there are still many many more men stepping up before women do so.

It is not that men hinder us to step up and share what we want to share. It is ourselves. Where are the barriers? what can we do to finally overcome them?

THE WISDOM FACTORY offers inside the project WOMEN MATTERS, a series of live conversations with women who are stepping up and want to inspire others to do so, too. And we offer them the possibility to be taken by their hands and helped into overcoming the obstacles which hold them back from offering their gifts and contributions to a wider circle. 

If you are interested to watch the next conversation or to contribute to it, please contact me via this blog or www.TheWisdomFactory.de